Drama Drama Drama

All of my life I have struggled with standing my ground, being assertive, and  dealing with confrontation. I hate the feeling you get when you're in an argument, especially with a close friend. I've realized that I rather avoid confrontation all the way around and just deal with the tension or frustration I feel, and just let it eat me up inside. Today is the day I must put my foot down. I must agree to myself and all of my readers that I will change my ways. 

Confrontation is not fun. It takes a strong person to deal with it the correct and affective way. Sometimes the way you approach something and go completely wrong and possibly make things worse and I think that's a lot of the reason I completely avoid it.

Here's the thing: If your relationship with this person matters enough to you you will do what it takes to create peace within yourself and with the person. Tension isn't healthy. Stress isn't healthy. It needs to be nipped in the butt...properly! 

Lets come up with steps:

1) Calmly approach the person

2) Explain how much they mean to you

Ex: "You know you're my best friend, so that's why..."

3) Address the problem 

4) Make clear your expectations 

Be strong ladies. (: 

DOGS

Dogs: Men (or should I say boys?) who don't know how to properly approach a woman. 

Today as I was walking to the metro I was approached (or should I say hollered at?) by two DOGS. The first dog was a man driving a big white truck, obviously working. He honked his horn and by habit, I turned my head. When I turned my head I see the man driving with his head turned back at me smiling and waving. 

Now, okay...what do these dogs honestly think is about to happen when they do these things? Am I supposed to wave back? Blow a kiss? Chase after them and give them my number? Honestly! It's common sense men, real ladies do not want that type of attention. 

After continuing my walk, not too long after the first dog, I was glancing inside of the Starbucks debating whether I should get an Iced Chai or not. Before I got the chance to decide two boys were walking in my direction looking like they were ready to hunt some prey and I must've had EAT ME or I AM YOUR PREY written on my forehead in dog food because the dogs came to play. One of the boys stared hungrily and said, "Dang, you look good. What's your name?" I've learned that at this point it's better to just not waste your breath giving dogs all of your information. So I gave a small closed-mouth smile and waved my hand up slightly as if to say, "No, thank you." As I walked forward and proceeded to my walk, the boy repeated himself, and added a "mmmmmm" as I could feel him staring at my backside. 

Again, ladies...what do they HONESTLY think is going to happen when we are approached this way. I don't want a man who talks to a lady this way and be treated as some piece of meat. 

Ladies do not date dogs. 

Today's Lesson: If you are approached by a dog, act as a cat and run away. 

Be safe ladies! 

Meow. (: 

And I'm Off!

Yesterday as I was watching reality shows on MTV and VH1, I thought to myself how much I wished I was back home in Washington D.C. and how tired I was of laying around in the country town I was in. 

Now, if you knew me you would know that I think things all the way out before doing them. This time though, it was different. I only had $240 something in my account and I needed to get out, so I looked up bus routes and I bought the ticket! I packed all of my stuff that night and was so anxious I could barely sleep. 

I would never encourage anyone to just make quick decisions but this was one that I am proud of. I decided to live. I decided to just go with it! Sometimes that's just what you have to do too. Ya know? Y.O.L.O. (I never actually go by that saying because that's how you wake up in someone's bathtub with half your head shaved and one shoe on) BUT! in this case, I went with it! Now, here I am sitting on a Greyhound bus with my iPhone in hand, sitting in a window seat anxiously waiting to arrive at our first stop. 

I never really talk about my personal life on here but the majority of my friends and family are all in the D.C. area, so I'm more than excited to see all of them. My family has no idea I'm coming, so I can't wait to show up on their doorstep and surprise them. Lets just hope I don't give anyone any heart attacks or strokes. 

I'll keep you all posted! 

Mwah. <3 

Honesty

Honesty is the best policy. But sometimes people just can't take it. The truth hurts! We all know. 

Have you ever met someone who takes everything you say, screws it around, and turns it into an insult? Yeah, those people can't take the truth very well. But let this be known: that is not your fault. 

I'm not saying just say the first thing that comes to your mind, no. Think before you say! Tell the truth when it can benefit either the person or the situation in which you are in. 

Don't you just feel relieved when you're honest instead of having to come up with some off-the-wall lie or story? Lies always come back to bite you in the butt. They will either grow into this huge lie, or they will blow up and fail. In any type of relationship, honesty is VERY IMPORTANT. Lies aren't healthy. I know the truth can be hard to be told, but it's better that then to hide something and have it be brought up later in life. Like they say, "what's done in the dark will eventually come out in the light." It's the truth! 

Now, minor lies...I mean we all tell them. But if a lie isn't necessary and doesn't need to be told...just don't. Be real! Be honest! It feels good. 

:) 

Boys will be boys

Is that our excuse ladies? 

That "boys will be boys" so they can get away with anything. Ohhh noooooo. Not in my house! What we need to say is, "A man needs to be a man." I don't play with boys. 

Too many times we let guys get away with things because we love them or want to save our relationships when really we're only hurting ourselves. Cheating, sexting, physical abuse, mental abuse: we go through all of these things an some of us think it's normal or consider it to not be serious. Ladies, it is serious because you deserve better. You should be your man's queen and nothing less. That is what we are: Queens and no queen should be treated as a peasant. Am I right? 

Alot of the times we let guys treat us as dirt because we're afraid of being alone. We have to be stronger than that. There is nothing wrong with being alone. You don't have to go searching for the next guy either. HE will find YOU. I'm not saying that the next creep that approaches you with gold teeth and a pair of raggedy shoes is your dream guy but just don't go searching for anyone just to keep you warm at night, that's all. 

If your man is doing something you don't approve of, don't let him make you feel "crazy", don't let him say you're "overreacting." What's wrong is wrong, and you need to stand your ground. 

Have a good day my queens! 

Social Networks and Relationships

Look ladies, we should all know by now that social media was MADE to put all your business out there...but that doesn't mean do it! (CONTROL YOURSELF YOU  ANIMAL!)
     With Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and everyyythinnngggg else out there made just for us, its easy to forget that there is such thing as privacy and things meant to be said in person. Too many of us are using our social networks as a release or as a public diary. If you have 1,278 friends on Facebook, well guess what? 1,278 people just read this: " OMG, I can't believe he did this to me...I just don't know what to do. -Feeling Lonely :( " Ugh! It makes me SICK when I see stuff like that on networks. I know we are emotional creatures, and there is nothing wrong with that, but you can't keep everyone posted with the ups and downs of your relationship. Its not fair to either one of you in the relationship and it just gives everyone a reason to talk bad about you when the next status you write is this: "Laying down with my babe, about to watch a movie! Yay! -Feeling Loved" Not cool girl, not cool. Ladies, when you need a release or you just wanna say something about your boyfriend, DO NOT, I mean DO NOT go to a social network!
1st Rule about Social Networks and Relationships: Do not use social networks like a diary unless you are willing to suffer from the consequences. Have some respect for your relationship!

Now! Social Networks also play another role in our relationships. They force us to define our relationship status and they allow us to send friend requests and communicate with anyone really. Personally, I choose to not show my relationship status on my profile. You can see who I'm with based off of the pictures! I think of it this way: If me and my special someone were to break up, everyone would see my status go from IN A RELATIONSHIP to SINGLE. I just rather keep that information to myself. That's just me though! With Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram it's so easy to make "friendships", but not only friendships but relationships. We can like any picture, follow anyone, message anyone, and retweet anything. But when our guy does it, all hell breaks loose! I know ladies, I know.
     That's where REAL communication comes into place! If your guy is liking all these different girls' pictures, tell him how it makes you feel! If it doesn't bother you then more power to ya! But for the rest of us...it's just not okay. Now, if he is messaging girls, you should be concerned. Because honestly, what is he messaging them for? Unless its him asking for advice on what perfume to get you or where he should take you for your next date, he really has no reason to be constantly communicating with another girl.
2nd Rule about Social Networks and Relationships: If your guy's activity on social networks is bothering you, SPEAK UP! Be woman enough to tell him what's bothering you and how it makes you feel.

Social Networks cannot ruin your relationship, but the lack of communication or dishonesty will. Communicate with your partner, not with your Twitter. There's nothing wrong with letting a  little bit of your personality out, but don't spill all the jelly beans.

8 Fun Things to Put on Your Summer Bucket List

Hey guys!

Here is a list of things I put together for my readers that I found incredibly fun. I was determined to come up with cool and creative things to do this summer to keep me active and to keep things new and fresh! Enjoy!

1) Have a Paint War

 

2) Go hiking

 

 

3) Turn your room into a restaurant

 

 

4) Go bike riding

 

5) Go to a museum

 

6) Go thrift shopping

 

7) Go to a new café

 

8) Go to a festival or parade

 

 

I'd love to hear about you guys' summer bucket lists and I would love even MORE to see you guys doing the stuff from MY bucket list! So please comment or send me your pictures!

Love you all.

<3