He is something we all wish we had. He is the Edward from Twilight, the Derek from Grey's Anatomy, the Noah from The Notebook. The perfect boyfriend is sexy and strong yet soft when it comes to his touch. Tv shows, romance novels, and movies often make it hard for us girls to distinguish fantasy from reality. If you go through life searching for a Ryan Goseling or a Channing Tatum you will find yourself in your one bedroom apartment with 16 cats, 4 fish, and a gerbil.
Now, I would never encourage you to settle. I believe we are Queens and we deserve nothing less than a king. BUT your eyes may decieve you....the hottest guy isn't always the best guy for you. I have come up with a list of traits YOUR perfect boyfriend should have. THIS should be the guideline you use the next time your Mr. Wrong comes along ( you like how that rhymed?)
1) Listen to the butterflies!
It may not be love at first sight, but the butterflies in your stomach will give you the answer. You should be excited to see him or hear from him. It should be an excited nervousness, not a nervousness to where you feel like you have to act like something you're not.
2) Your number one cheerleader
He should be your number one supporter in every decision you make. He should back you up and encourage you to be the best YOU you can be. Just as you would be there for a game of his or a performance, you should expect the same support from him.
3) What does your mama say?
Chances are if your family doesn't like him, he's not the one. Your family sees things that you won't always see. Love is truly blind and the sweet heart you may think you are dating may be the jerk who will break your heart. If your family doesn't like him, hear them out. Listen to their reasoning, they only want the best for you.
4) Are you HIS main priority?
Behind family, of course, you should be his main priority. Time with you and making you happy should be his main focus. Video games and friends should come second or third.
5) R-E-S-P-E-C-T
This is a huge thing in relationships! He should respect your values, morals, wants, and needs. At all times! BUT he can only do these things if you make clear what you expect from him, so make sure you make these things clear and there is complete communication.
6) Your own personal comedian
What is a relationship without laughter? You should be able to laugh and joke around with each other and not always having to take each other too seriously. There will be hard times and good times in a relationship, but if you're not able to laugh during the hard times, you most likely wont make it through together.
7) Don't try too hard
If you feel your boyfriend isn't giving the relationship enough effort, that needs to be discussed. You shouldn't have to to TRY to make him love you. Love is effortless. There should be nothing forced.
8) Loyalty
Let's be real. Guys are dogs and like the good dogs, your guy should be loyal. Unless you're all about the whole "free love" thing where you and your guy can be free to have as many partners as desired then your man should be loyal. When it comes to cheating, there are no excuses. Whether you forgive him, it is up to you. Whether you take him back, it is up to you. But if you want the "perfect" boyfriend...that man does not cheat.
Nobody is perfect, but YOUR ideal guy should follow this guideline completely. Every girl has their own wants, so you may have some more traits that you want from a guy and that is fine! Just understand that your man may not look like a celebrity, but when your guy is good to you and checks a yes on the things above....you got a keeper girl!
Personally, my lovely boyfriend of a year+ checks a HECK YES on all of these things! I wouldn't encourage you guys to have a checklist for your Mr. Perfect if I hadn't already found mine.
I love you ladies! Remember, your Mr. Right will find you. Keep the fairy tales and movies in the books and the movie theatres!
xoxo
Cynthea
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