And I'm Off!

Yesterday as I was watching reality shows on MTV and VH1, I thought to myself how much I wished I was back home in Washington D.C. and how tired I was of laying around in the country town I was in. 

Now, if you knew me you would know that I think things all the way out before doing them. This time though, it was different. I only had $240 something in my account and I needed to get out, so I looked up bus routes and I bought the ticket! I packed all of my stuff that night and was so anxious I could barely sleep. 

I would never encourage anyone to just make quick decisions but this was one that I am proud of. I decided to live. I decided to just go with it! Sometimes that's just what you have to do too. Ya know? Y.O.L.O. (I never actually go by that saying because that's how you wake up in someone's bathtub with half your head shaved and one shoe on) BUT! in this case, I went with it! Now, here I am sitting on a Greyhound bus with my iPhone in hand, sitting in a window seat anxiously waiting to arrive at our first stop. 

I never really talk about my personal life on here but the majority of my friends and family are all in the D.C. area, so I'm more than excited to see all of them. My family has no idea I'm coming, so I can't wait to show up on their doorstep and surprise them. Lets just hope I don't give anyone any heart attacks or strokes. 

I'll keep you all posted! 

Mwah. <3 

Honesty

Honesty is the best policy. But sometimes people just can't take it. The truth hurts! We all know. 

Have you ever met someone who takes everything you say, screws it around, and turns it into an insult? Yeah, those people can't take the truth very well. But let this be known: that is not your fault. 

I'm not saying just say the first thing that comes to your mind, no. Think before you say! Tell the truth when it can benefit either the person or the situation in which you are in. 

Don't you just feel relieved when you're honest instead of having to come up with some off-the-wall lie or story? Lies always come back to bite you in the butt. They will either grow into this huge lie, or they will blow up and fail. In any type of relationship, honesty is VERY IMPORTANT. Lies aren't healthy. I know the truth can be hard to be told, but it's better that then to hide something and have it be brought up later in life. Like they say, "what's done in the dark will eventually come out in the light." It's the truth! 

Now, minor lies...I mean we all tell them. But if a lie isn't necessary and doesn't need to be told...just don't. Be real! Be honest! It feels good. 

:) 

Boys will be boys

Is that our excuse ladies? 

That "boys will be boys" so they can get away with anything. Ohhh noooooo. Not in my house! What we need to say is, "A man needs to be a man." I don't play with boys. 

Too many times we let guys get away with things because we love them or want to save our relationships when really we're only hurting ourselves. Cheating, sexting, physical abuse, mental abuse: we go through all of these things an some of us think it's normal or consider it to not be serious. Ladies, it is serious because you deserve better. You should be your man's queen and nothing less. That is what we are: Queens and no queen should be treated as a peasant. Am I right? 

Alot of the times we let guys treat us as dirt because we're afraid of being alone. We have to be stronger than that. There is nothing wrong with being alone. You don't have to go searching for the next guy either. HE will find YOU. I'm not saying that the next creep that approaches you with gold teeth and a pair of raggedy shoes is your dream guy but just don't go searching for anyone just to keep you warm at night, that's all. 

If your man is doing something you don't approve of, don't let him make you feel "crazy", don't let him say you're "overreacting." What's wrong is wrong, and you need to stand your ground. 

Have a good day my queens! 

Social Networks and Relationships

Look ladies, we should all know by now that social media was MADE to put all your business out there...but that doesn't mean do it! (CONTROL YOURSELF YOU  ANIMAL!)
     With Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and everyyythinnngggg else out there made just for us, its easy to forget that there is such thing as privacy and things meant to be said in person. Too many of us are using our social networks as a release or as a public diary. If you have 1,278 friends on Facebook, well guess what? 1,278 people just read this: " OMG, I can't believe he did this to me...I just don't know what to do. -Feeling Lonely :( " Ugh! It makes me SICK when I see stuff like that on networks. I know we are emotional creatures, and there is nothing wrong with that, but you can't keep everyone posted with the ups and downs of your relationship. Its not fair to either one of you in the relationship and it just gives everyone a reason to talk bad about you when the next status you write is this: "Laying down with my babe, about to watch a movie! Yay! -Feeling Loved" Not cool girl, not cool. Ladies, when you need a release or you just wanna say something about your boyfriend, DO NOT, I mean DO NOT go to a social network!
1st Rule about Social Networks and Relationships: Do not use social networks like a diary unless you are willing to suffer from the consequences. Have some respect for your relationship!

Now! Social Networks also play another role in our relationships. They force us to define our relationship status and they allow us to send friend requests and communicate with anyone really. Personally, I choose to not show my relationship status on my profile. You can see who I'm with based off of the pictures! I think of it this way: If me and my special someone were to break up, everyone would see my status go from IN A RELATIONSHIP to SINGLE. I just rather keep that information to myself. That's just me though! With Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram it's so easy to make "friendships", but not only friendships but relationships. We can like any picture, follow anyone, message anyone, and retweet anything. But when our guy does it, all hell breaks loose! I know ladies, I know.
     That's where REAL communication comes into place! If your guy is liking all these different girls' pictures, tell him how it makes you feel! If it doesn't bother you then more power to ya! But for the rest of us...it's just not okay. Now, if he is messaging girls, you should be concerned. Because honestly, what is he messaging them for? Unless its him asking for advice on what perfume to get you or where he should take you for your next date, he really has no reason to be constantly communicating with another girl.
2nd Rule about Social Networks and Relationships: If your guy's activity on social networks is bothering you, SPEAK UP! Be woman enough to tell him what's bothering you and how it makes you feel.

Social Networks cannot ruin your relationship, but the lack of communication or dishonesty will. Communicate with your partner, not with your Twitter. There's nothing wrong with letting a  little bit of your personality out, but don't spill all the jelly beans.

8 Fun Things to Put on Your Summer Bucket List

Hey guys!

Here is a list of things I put together for my readers that I found incredibly fun. I was determined to come up with cool and creative things to do this summer to keep me active and to keep things new and fresh! Enjoy!

1) Have a Paint War

 

2) Go hiking

 

 

3) Turn your room into a restaurant

 

 

4) Go bike riding

 

5) Go to a museum

 

6) Go thrift shopping

 

7) Go to a new café

 

8) Go to a festival or parade

 

 

I'd love to hear about you guys' summer bucket lists and I would love even MORE to see you guys doing the stuff from MY bucket list! So please comment or send me your pictures!

Love you all.

<3

The Motto

Today's quick phrase:
INTERNAL HAPPINESS

That is my motto. Every time I get a feeling of someone else's negativity about to rub off on me like a case of the flu, I think to myself, "internal happiness" and from there I realize that no external sources can prevent me from being happy, only I can control that.
     I also use this motto as a reminder to make MYSELF happy and to not rely on others to bring me joy. If you rely on everyone else to make you happy, you will find yourself constantly searching for other people to always be around you and you won't be able to stand simply being ALONE. And guess what? Those same people you're always depending on WILL disappoint you if you only rely on them.
     Now, don't get me wrong, I haven't always been one to believe in this "internal happiness" motto I created. It wasn't until last month that I realized how important it is to have internal happiness and to be at peace with YOURSELF. Last month I was in a different city and none of my friends were with me. I found myself feeling down in the dumps and just yearning for someone to cheer me up and make me happy. It was at that time that I realized it was me and only me who could make ME happy. I decided to search things I could do all of the city and did things I would have never done back at home or any other time.

Like myself, I hope you ladies can use this motto to inspire you, drive you, and encourage you to be better, feel better, and most of all live better.

Much love!
P.S.
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BFFs

Friends.
You gain some, you lose some. Being an army brat, I have experienced a lot of the whole losing and gaining friends thing. I have moved from state to state and school to school. Of course I met some good people in my life, some stuck to me and some didn't. I quickly realized that when people say, "We'll keep in touch!" They don't really mean that they'll actually be keeping in contact with you, they mean they'll like a pic of you on instagram occasionally.
     Friends aren't always lost because of moving though! Ohhhh nooo, most of the time they are lost over petty high school drama. Cliques and fitting in are NO joke. That stuff is real. The movie "Mean Girls" had it right with the "plastics." It wasn't until about my senior year in high school that I realized the seriousness of cliques and being accepted. It seemed that everyone around me was trying to be the "realest" one. That was such a big thing, being "real." When I think about it now, it was the same people who tried to come of as "real" who had the most to hide. That year, "friends" were turning on me like pancakes. One day we were snapping selfies and calling each other pet names and the next day they were just an old memory I was forced to avoid. Its really sad that us girls (I say girls because it really is usually just us who do this) base our friendships off of other people's opinions and feelings towards the person.
     Throughout all the crap I had to go through with my so called "friends", I did meet some real life-long friends that I really cherish. Friendships shouldn't have complications and be a bunch of issues. Friends shouldn't bring you down or make you feel bad about yourself. Friends also shouldn't play those social network games like deleting you or unfollowing you because of a little problem you guys have. Those are not friends. Thoseeee are what I call, "Crazy Skank-achoos you need to get out of your life!" Friends are the people who have seen you at your best and worst moments. People who stick with you no matter how near or far. Friends will help build you up after you have completely deteriorated. Friends don't need you for your money or all that you have, all they want is you.
     My note to you ladies: Watch your back, don't always trust everyone's word, and cut the bad friends out of your life. If they're drama now, they'll be even MORE drama later. Cut 'em off!

No one can be there for you like you can.
<3

Miley Cyrus

     Change. Sometimes it can be good and sometimes it can be bad. Recently, I've been feeling some need for change. I thought maybe I was having an early mid-life crisis or something because I was just itching to create some change in my life, my look...just SOMETHING!
     Two days ago I decided to dye my hair. Nothing dramatic! I just wanted something different, I contemplated over and over again whether I should keep it the same, dye it some crazy color, or go all Miley Cyrus and chop it all off. Thankfully, my wonderful mother brought me back to planet Earth and  reminded me I'm not a celebrity and I would have to deal with that decision for a while. After my hair was finished, I felt....great! I had a little pep in my step, an extra confidence boost, and I couldn't stop smiling. So I figured, my plan had worked! All I had to do was dye my hair and my need for change would just disappear.
     Two days later, here I am. Back to feeling the way I was feeling before, pretty hair and all. What I guess I had to realize was that my want for change and my want for things to just SPRING out of the ground was really unrealistic. Things won't change unless I make them change. Things can't happen unless I make them happen. And changing things on the outside won't always change how I'm feeling on the inside.
     My word to you ladies, don't throw a pity party and don't make extreme measures if you're ever feeling like I'm feeling. (I do love my hair though ;) ) What matters is your perspective on everything. Find your inner happiness, no matter what's going on around you.

Peace, Love, & Miley Cyrus.

P.S. Guess with a title like Miley Cyrus you expected this blog to be A) a rant about her B) discussing her twerking videos or C) her new famous haircut. Gotcha, didn't I?